My wife is more likely to get a movie than I am. We both love our room. She understands that a certain amount of stuff needs to be seen, and I under stand that it is still part of our house.
You guys need to have a little patience and teach your wive's the beauty of a nice HT set up. It's not about being loud, and it's not about watching The Matrix at 150db. It's about having a space that your whole family can enjoy. It's about popping some popcorn and sitting under a blanket and watching a chick flick. It's about my 13 year old son bringing home friends and cranking Iron Man till the house shakes!
And just so you don't think I'm a weinie.....
Paradigm studio speakers (100's,690,ADP's)
JVC 70" tv
SVS Ultra/2 and a Plus/2
Outlaw audio pre/pro and SEVEN 200watt mono block amps.
All in an 18x18 room.
Have you ever tried a concert DVD? Pop in Nora Jones, or how about Fleetwood Mac? Maybe Sheryl Crow.