I agree one hundred---no, make that one thousand percent, Bear. When I used to go into Hi-Fi shops, I often found the instruments coming out of most audiophile speakers to appear comically tiny, the size of a grand piano being reduced to a single spot in the soundstage, with no sense of scale. The soundboard of a piano is HUGE, and should sound that way. Those low strings produce a massive wavefront, one you can feel. Same with bass drums of course, as well as floor toms (can you tell I play drums ;- ?), string basses, cellos, tubas, even baritone saxes. The only speakers I've heard which reproduce that aspect of recorded music has been the big planars, especially the 3-panel Magneplanar Tympani's. I am about to set up a pair of T-IV's in my new abode, and once again hear the size of music. Exciting!
Then there is the tonal balance of hi-fi speakers, which I again agree is usually way different than the real sound of instruments, being far too "light" in weight, heft, and harmonic balance, instruments sounding anemic. Some of the researchers have suggested that, for whatever reason, a speaker (or system) that measures flat sounds too "tipped up" in the high frequencies. That calls into question the assumptions that have been in place for the past half century, and the manner in which measurements are made. Interesting topic indeed!