"Do you think I'll better of at 1080i@60hz than 720p, since I have active glasses I guess It wouldn't look that bad."
I don't think I've seen a TV that does 1080i 3D. If you want 3D, target 720p/60. If you want 2D, target 1080p/60. Keep in mind that steroscopy is about the least important part of human depth perception. 2D 1080p/60 will likely give you a better experience at the end of the day than 3D 720p/60. Either way it costs about the same in terms of rendering. Either twice as many pixels going from 720p to 1080p, or twice as many pixels going from 60fps to 120fps in order to render for each eye.
"There's still no need to go past 8GB RAM in my experience"
I run 32GB in my system. Sitting at the desktop with Chrome open eats 4-10GB of in-use memory. I commonly only have about 3GB free. The other 20GB is stuff that Windows has pre-loaded for me in anticipation of using it, which is far faster to load than even pulling off of an SSD. "In your experience" is starving the hell out of machines at 8GB, requiring crap to be dumped to the pagefile when you want to load any relatively modern game. This means waiting for things to write back out of ram, on top of waiting for things to read in to ram. 16GB is a perfectly acceptable amount that still leaves a healthy portion for pre-caching with minimal pagefile use. 32GB is a touch overkill, but not by much.
RAM is cheeeap. Stop recommending people starve their machines. "Get a $200 video card, but only spend $40 on ram." This is bad advice.
"What's your stand on SSD?"
I run a 128GB Crucial M4 SSD for my system drive and swapfile. Then I have a pair of mirrored 1TB drives for games and media. It's pretty much the happy medium. Fast, fast moment to moment system use due to the SSD, cheap mass storage with the disc drives. The gobs of ram helps with the speed penalty to the HDD, as Windows already has most of Team Fortress 2 loaded before I hit the Play button.
I am considering a second SSD dedicated to caching of the most commonly used files for the HDD, but I'm not sure if anyone has built a drive-specific caching solution yet, or just a system-wide one.
A $100 SSD with a $100 HDD or two is a great combination.
"Any thoughts on which type of graphics card and cpu type I should use?"
How much do you want to spend? Over $200? Look at the Intel i5 3570 and pretty much stop right there. Under $200? AMD is the way to go on the cheaper scale. The FX-8350 is a great CPU for $200. The FX-6300 gives some great performance for $140.