Normally, you can down load the up-date from the manufacturer's web site.
It could be a direct down load via the Internet to the player in question or a down load to your computer and then burn to a CD/DVD or load to a stick drive for up-dating the player; it depends on your machine which you haven't bothered to share the model number.
The best place to start is to open and read your owner's manual. I have yet to see a manufacture who does not outline the up-date procedure in the owners manual.
Assuming that your comment "What a piece of S%#$! Thx panasonic" implies that you own some sort of Panasonic machine, you could also go to Panasonic Support, I've included a link for your convenience, enter your model number and follow the instructions that Panasonic gives you.
Here's the link: http://shop.panasonic.com/support/?selectedTopNavId=nav10&support=y
Or, as you suggest, you could just send it direct to a "Chinese e-waste land fill or Panasonic's corporate headquarters for disposal.