Dont know if you can get one, but my philis BD3000 is an excellent player.
Fast startup times, fast loaduptimes (not many seconds for POTC), smal, region free for DVD, and movable subtitles for 2.35:1 screens.
I havnt really explored the audio options yet, so im not sure how it handle DTS-HD MA. I think it can only decode 2 channels, but bitream it. I have to test that first.
As for upscaling, DVD is DVD, you cant really do so much in that area. Most players would be fine.