I'd like to put together an HTPC that can handle all of my music, control my other gear (Oppo Blueray player, Roku Netflix, Pre/pro, projector, etc), and be controlled remotely by an iPad as my remote. What do I need to do this? I don't need a complete rundown on the HTPC itself, but what devices, if any, are available to allow the IR control for those devices that don't have RS232? What software is available to integrate the IR and RS232 commands in the same ways that say an Control4 or Crestron device can do?
Would I be better served trying to integrate an HTPC with a Control4 controller and their iPad control?