Thank you for the PM earlier requesting my input on this thread. Sorry I was not able to post sooner. You have definitely outlined your needs very thoroughly. Based on your requirements I would suggest that you take a look at Palliser. They are just about the only brand out there what will fulfill each requirement and they are priced right where you are looking. The biggest points in your requirements are made in USA, the need for a matching (I'm assuming matching or at least in the same leather) static loveseat for your back row and the fact that you would like to use them for 10+ years. While the style won't match exactly, Palliser has nice selection of home theater groups as well as sofas and sectionals that can be used for the back row. They have a huge selection of leathers (consider this for easier maintenance) and fabrics that can be used on both the home theater chairs and the loveseat. Palliser is based in Canada and has two factories- one in Canada and one in Mexico. Their furniture is manufactured to the same specs in both factories. So, to be clear, your chairs will be made in North America but not the USA. Given the differences in the heights of you and your wife, her head will hit lower on the chair than yours than yours obviously. So look for a chair that does not have a large protruding headrest- something with more of a flat back. If you would like more specific info I can recommend some groups for the home theater and loveseat. I hope this helps. Feel free to PM me or email me, also.
Home Theater Seating and Decor
Home Theater Seating