Well, build-out is about complete. I ended up installing over a mile of cable counting Cat6, coax and speaker. I am not counting the LV that the security guy ran. To be fair, I was a bit overzealous at the drop locations and ended up with way too much cable.
I went with the Lync12 from HTD and did monoprice speakers. Two zones will have surround sound in wall (5.1 in one and 7.2 in the game room) and the rest are in ceiling with 6" pairs for the low ceiling smaller rooms, and 8" for the higher ceiling, bigger rooms.
I did data drops in most places with exception of bathrooms, laundry, and kitchen. Each TV location got a coax and 3 Cat6.
I decided against cameras. My wife felt it was creepy, and the system I installed in my in-laws never gets reviewed. If I find a reason to install one, I am sure a wireless one will work.
I can't wait to get everything up and running. If the builder will finish the damn retaining wall, I can move in and play with my new toys! It should be in the next two weeks. I am also still waiting to see which of (or if) TWC or AT&T is going to be able to get me some good flow of MBPS.
Thanks to all that helped me along the way, even if it wasn't direct replies. This was a great learning experience. I can't wait to tackle the theater/game room buildout in the basement next!