I would think the best thing to do would be to paint the ceiling a flat gray and maybe darken the walls. You most likely thought of this and have some reason against it. The gray screen would help I would think. I painted my ceiling and it made a drastic difference in a dark cave room without the reflection of light off the ceiling and walls.
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