For us, hi-fi equipment is the beginning of the music producing chain process. Well engineered and designed audio equipment must have the same connected to it. All the components must have well engineered cables for the speakers and the components. If you own a piece of upper end gear, contact the designer of the piece and ask them what components and cables they use to voice their equipment with. They have tested many and settled on a few. Most will tell you what they like to use with their gear.
It is the synergy of all of these components that when placed in a properly designed and acoustically treated room, will produce an emotional connection to the music that one enjoys. It is for this purpose that the components were created for by the engineers.
Go to a trade show, if you can and talk to the builders of equipment you own or are thinking about purchasing. Look at the ones that are focused on the music and not the box. I think you will meet a designer that thinks and hears like you do.