Welp, spreading them out fixed it! Got XT32 run, level matched everything and watched some DVR's.
Using CSI as an example for 5.1, the center sounds like it is coming from the screen. When the fronts are playing the same thing, they sound balanced, but when they aren't, you can tell where stuff is coming from. For example, at a police station, sirens were heard outside out of the front right while someone typing on a keyboard was clear as day out of the left.
When in stereo, if I stand at the MLP, it actually sounds like the sound is coming from the screen, not the left and right fronts. Perfectly balanced.
65E6P / 65EF9500 / DMP-UB900
AV7702II / Outlaw 7125
RF7II's / RC64II / Dual FV15HP's