Coeus, I hear you...(no pun intended). I've experimented with this sub quite a bit...and it really makes a difference as to where you put it. (I know, it always does...but for some reason, it seems to be really obvious with this particular sub.) After I used the auto-calibrate feature, I tweaked it a bit more with DVE and my SPL...playing with the "Room-EQ" setting can help a lot. I use this setup mainly for HT stuff, and I'm really happy with it now.
Initially, I had the sub behind the couch...and I felt it, but found it didn't sound very "smooth" or balanced with the other speakers. After moving it to a more "open" position, I was able to achieve a more balanced response. Granted, my wife isn't as pleased with the looks (she preferred it to be hidden), I like the way it sounds.
Once you get the speakers tweaked the way you like them, I'm fairly sure you'll be pleased with their "snap" or "jump". (As long as your room isn't too big.) Try messing with the "Re-EQ" setting...see if you like it on or off better. With it off, you might get more snap...or you may find the speakers to sound harsh. Personally, I like it better off most of the time.