Well it has been a long evening for me but slowly making progress.
Got the BDP-83 to do want I wanted, I wasn't get the True-HD and Master-DTS until I reran the setup on the Oppo, During the setup it asked if I had a HDMI 1.3+ compliant receiver, when I set it up originally I did not so it was down mixing everything to DTS. Took me a while to remember to do this.
My biggest issue is HDMI handshaking between my ancient FiOS DVR QIP-6416..grrrrrr ...(Love my FiOS PQ and stability, internet etc...but DVR HW blows)...WOW I tried every/lots of combination of settings and startup sequences and I finally have it working pretty good, but not how I really want. I had to leave the DVR on ( not that big deal because it is basically on all the time) but the only way I could reliably get it to handshake/sync with the panel was to set HDMI control to On, and set the Source to that input, Power control is off. And according to batpig site, that could use up to 30 watts to keep the HDMI circuits live...ughhh! Not sure I really want to do that long term
energy wise or wear and tear.
Batpig, I noticed in your Denon-to-English Set FAQ (thanks again) that you comment the HDMI control on "Not only does it make any HDMI issues less likely, but you will be wasting less energy. " ...which ironically I might add has some "Denon-esque" grammatical "nuances"...an homage to Denon tech pubs possibly?
but I think it does/may help it because it keeps the HDMI link alive and thus the handshake does not need to be reestablished, reducing issues in some cases. I still do not want it as a long term solution though.
So I am going to consider HDMI, straight to the Panel, and toslink to the AVR (my old setup)...bummer from a cable management but not from and audio/video fidelity perspective...or I suppose Component to the AVR. I was really hoping not to do either, I am open for suggestions.
BTW I noticed if you turn video convert OFF the GUI goes low res and does not overlay on the picture, not sure I understand why, and not sure if that will have any effect on the HDMI syncing...in my many permutations I can not remember.
Regarding the Harmony codes the "AVR 3311CI" (no "-") seems to be a good set of harmony codes.
The good thing is I can get around the menus pretty quick now
The Oppo doesn't seem to have this issue...
Ohh and I plan to run Audessy tomorrow really I swear/I hope, I noticed it is the first thing most of you run (naturally), I wanted to get these other issues out of the way first and hopefully enjoy the Audessy experience, that and the TDF is on and the Mrs. wants the DVR working (well so do I). Really I am interested in the audio, but the video setup for me always seems a little more challenging...and I am kinda particular about it.
I am getting a TriPod from a friend...how did the rest of you run Audessy setup...what did you set it on? or did you just "wing it"?
Ohh and good luck KYA my FW upgrade went smooth, but the count down was uneven, it stayed on the the last minute for several minutes but took ~20 minutes overall