|View Poll Results: Do You Consider the Spouse-Acceptance Factor in Your Home Theater?|
|Yes, I compromise for the sake of domestic tranquility||362||40.49%|
|No, my spouse does not limit what I can do in that room||338||37.81%|
|No, I do what I want in that room no matter what my spouse says||82||9.17%|
|No, I have no spouse||112||12.53%|
|Voters: 894. You may not vote on this poll|
The first two times, I tried 'media rooms' so I could justify the cost of the equipment: "we'll use it every day, honey!" But the sound was compromised, and there was no effective light control.
In my latest (final??) house, I bought it with a plan to take over a healthy portion of the basement (I passed on several house layouts because I couldn't envision a functional, symmetrical-shaped theater room). There is no better way for the DIY theater builder: if I want to keep 2x4's and rock-wool insulation laying around for a month, nobody complains. If I want to paint everything black, nobody else gets to vote. My wife knows this is my hobby, and now that I have separated it from our daily living space, we both breathe a sigh of relief. And I could never put 14 speakers, multiple 18" subs, or a 125" screen in our Family Room!!!
However, I now must buy all the equipment from my own separate 'fun-money' fund, which takes some time to grow. So upgrades require budgeting. I'm glad I was able to buy my first plasma in 2004 from the 'general fund' ($4500 for a 50" 720p).
Some people LOVE MUSIC.
Some people LOVE the SOUND of music.
If you don't know the difference, then you LIKE MUSIC.
My slow-cooking 11.4 channel Theater Room quest
Last edited by WHATTHEDILEO; 02-13-2015 at 04:42 PM.
"Ya see, we plan ahead. That way we don't do anything right now. Earl explained it to me." - Valentine McKee
One sub to rumble them all. One sub to shake them. One sub to humble them all. And in the darkness break them....
Last edited by Vader424242; 02-14-2015 at 06:04 PM.
The MarvelAtmos Home Theater: http://www.avsforum.com/forum/19-ded...e-theater.html
Editor, AVS Forum
Projector: BenQ w1500 + ES Sable 135" Screen AVR: Marantz SR6011 ATMOS/DTSX + Darbee 5000s
Speakers: Polk Audio TSX550t (FL/FR), CS2 Series II (C), Monitor40 Series II (RL/RR),
Polk Audio TSx110B (Ceiling FL/FR RL/RR), (2) JL Audio 12" Subs + (2) Dayton 15" Subs + (2) ButtKicker LFE
Arrangement: 5.1.4 Source: OPPO UDP-203 4k Bluray Player, Roku 4, HTPC, Nexus Player
Samsung PN60F8500 PDP / Denon AVR-4520ci / OPPO BDP-103D
DTV HR24-100 / Apple TV (gen3) / Roku Stick / HTPC / Panamax M5400-PM
Rythmik FV15HP's (2) / Klipsch RF-82 ii (L&R) / RC-62 ii (C) / RB-51 ii (FH) / RS-52 ii (SS) / RB-41 ii (SB)
I go to great lengths to involve her in all discussions, ideas, and input and carefully craft options to provide the illusion that most of it is her idea. For example the other day she told the BB rep that she thought the LG OLED display had superior color and contrast to the other displays in the store....
I couldn't be more proud!
Masterpiece Calibration Ltd
I think the clear reality is nearly 100% of the theater builders on this forum are male, not that it matters either way, just a undeniable fact, not stereotyping at all. I was just being the devils advocate, besides, that young lady is probably not the typical wife either, in-fact I thought first it looked exactly like my daughter. If she is the typical wife I am probably not the typical spouse.
Most guys like girls ... Stereotype? No, just a fact.
Anytime you try to claim that humans are constrained by their biology, people think you are some sort of bigot or racist or some such nonsense.
I don't have the hearing of a dog and almost no other human does. Do all human have the same hearing, no... Do your see people calling eachother names based ln that fact? Not really. Perhaps because we are all so similar in this regard? Dog's certainly might be right to stereotype humans as having crappy hearing...would they be wrong?
As soon as you say someone MIGHT be limited or affected by their biology, people freak because they think their potential is limitless. They don't like anyone suggesting otherwise (at least about traits that they care about). People take their cognition "too personally".
If you ask someone if they can memorize 100 digits in a row... They say no... But they don't feel any dumber because they can't. They will claim that that is "normal". It is weird how folks concede they are not that smart in some areas but that they may have limitless potential in others "just because".
When you point out that MAYBE men in general MIGHT be prone to "audiophile tendencies" or any other behavioural trait... Folks start qualifying their remarks so they aren't judged to be sexist.
At the same time, my wife will admit that most women don't really give a crap about our crazy obsessive hobbies.
For weird obsessive hobbies, men take the CAKE... It's a good thing that women may be different or we would live in a world full of lunatics.
Perhaps marketing speakers to women has been a collossal failure of marketing and culture. Perhaps women don't have enough disposable income. Perhaps too many episodes of cosmo or dora the explorer rotted their brain.
Or maybe women just simply think about acoustics with less concern. And therefore can focus on more imprtant things in life.
How do we know that we didn't evolve the way we did for a reason? If hearing mattered so much, why don't we have hearing superior to dogs?
Just because we are different or even less capable in one are or another doesn't mean you have to get all worked up about it. Admit that you have your flaws... My hearing is not as good as a dog... And then move on to discover what you ARE good at... Perhaps quantum mechanics.
At a job interview, why do they ask what your "weaknesses" are? It is a test of your maturity. You can only know your weaknesses if you have sufficiently tested yourself. If you have no weaknesses to recall, you aren't worth hiring. "I'm perfect in every way"... Won't get you hired ... They will know you are prone to hubris or perhaps just lying.
On the other hand there have been some studies that verify that stereotyping does have a self fulfilling prophecy effect and might limit some people more than they otherwise would be...
Last edited by blazar; 02-14-2015 at 05:06 AM.
Klipsch RF-7 II's, RC-64II, RS-62 II's, RS-52 II's
Marantz SR7008 with TK421 Modification
Sony XBR-75x940c with Ideal-Lume Panelight
Anyway - I don't think that the poll is all that revealing in its current form. It needs two more choices (albeit with better wording...)
1) "I have a dedicated home theatre room and I do not have to compromise with my wife for aesthetics."
2) "I do NOT have a dedicated home theatre room and I do not have to compromise with my wife for aesthetics."
3) "I have a dedicated home theatre room and I compromise with my wife for aesthetics."
4) "I do NOT have a dedicated home theatre room and I do not have to compromise with my wife for aesthetics."
My guess is that #4 would have a very small population indeed.
Display: Panasonic P60UT50 (Plasma)
Speakers: (4) Monitor Audio Silver 9i (Front and Surround), (1) Monitor Audio Silver 12i (Center), (4) Monitor Audio Silver 4i (Rear and Wide), (2) Aperion Audio Bravus II 8d (Subwoofers)
Receiver: Pioneer Elite SC-87 AVR (9.2)
Sources: Oppo BDP-103, Roku 3, Cable...
Last edited by LairdWilliams; 02-14-2015 at 07:26 AM.
My Theater: The Ugly Theater
I guess I'm lucky in that my girl and I aesthetically both seem to like classy yet understated things, and similar colors (nothing garish or tacky), and she is also is a big fan of the theater room with my benq projector where we spend a lot of time. One big thing we compromised on was the seating distance to the screen, her eyes get tired easily when we're too close to the massive 138 inch projected image, so I just put the couch far enough back so that it's still immersive but not "nose bleed" levels.
Since the place is mine I obviously have final say but I do ask her which pieces of gear she likes best too. E.g. when I was considering B&W 600 s2 speakers, the white cabs looked really classy, so I was thinking of going with them, but then again, now that I found a good price / performance value in my JBL 308s which only come in black, she says she likes those too (no grills and big 8 inch woofers = "classy" enough for me!! hahah j/k). I do take her opinion into account because I actually care what she thinks and value her judgment too, not to avoid any arguments.
As for money, well sometimes I am a little short after I splurge from time to time on gear, but I'm thrifty, so I definitely value getting the best bang / buck and keep the rest of the cash for order in-sushi and getting her Blurays/whatever else that she likes (and lots of flowers!)
Every once in a while, quite inexplicably, things actually go according to plan.
Last edited by mogrub; 02-14-2015 at 08:58 AM. Reason: typo
Louder is NOT better!
The HT gear is in the family room.
My wife and I certainly discuss things and her opinion matters to me.
Fifteen years ago (shortly after we married, I am a retreaded hubby) she wanted me to replace my 70's era stereo speakers.
I was not too keen on that idea so I took a risk and I brought home a Bose system.
I immediately hooked it up and put on some Bon Jovie (her fav band), after a few minutes she wants to hear Def Leppard (2nd fav band) a couple minutes later she tells me it doesn't sound as good as the old speakers and she doesn't want to spend money and go backwards, I box up the Bose and return it, never heard another word about replacing those speakers.
Ten years later I want to replace them, her input was....if you are going to spend money on speakers to make sure the new ones sound better than the old ones.
Hello Klipsch RF-83's.
When we were picking the first HD TV I had to do some real convincing to get get a 56" TV and I must admit it looked like a monster when it was first sitting in the living room, when that DLP broke and I determined it was just as cost effective to replace it vs fix it, she asked how big of a TV will fit between the speakers....hello 60" TV.
So yes I care what she thinks, but she pretty much is on board when it comes to this kind of toys.
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