Before we moved into our house, we had a small 5.1 system, centered around the TV in the living room. After we moved in our new house, we had to decide, whether we will have a dedicated HT room or stick with the living room. My wife decided to have the HT in the family room because it is more social. She didn't like the idea to go to a room in the cellar and watch a movie. That means she accepted the speakers, even she didn't like it too much (aesthetics), but mentioned this only twice. I put all cables into ducts and here we go. Front projection mounted on the ceiling, 7.2.4 with large subwoofers (2 x 12") and 4 on-ceiling speakers.
Everybody is happy and it was a giving and taking. However, I can't do anything regarding acoustic treatment but we are happy with the sound.
We found a compromise and everybody is happy at the end. And yes, I had to take the spouse's aesthetic wishes into account but I am very happy with that. Somebody wrote earlier 'a happy wife makes a happy life' and I agree.