Use the checkerboard player, I have the Panasonic BDT-100 and like it very much. The checkerboard players will also pass through HDMI 1.3 receivers, so that will make life easier for you.
I've tried a few and find the Mitsubishi IR glasses the most comfortable, plus they just lowered the price which is nice.
I have a higher cabinet as well, about 30" tall, and have no issues with viewing angle with 2D or 3D, so I think you'll be fine.
Oh, and setup Super Brilliant for 3D...