Hi, and thanks for the response. Sorry for my late reply, I was out of town over the weekend.
To program individual buttons, i used the procedure in the manual, which was:
1) While holding down the mode button (TV, DVD, etc), push power for 3 seconds.
2) On, the Onkyo, push the button you want to learn a command
3) aim the 2 remotes at each other, and on the other remote, puch the button you want the Onkyo remote to learn
That's it. It was quite easy to set it up to...