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post #1 of 101
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I came home last night to the sight of my wife sitting at the kitchen table with various bank and credit card statements spread before her.

Oh No.

Then the interrogation began.

"You told me that "X" cost $x. It actually cost $2x."

"What is this charge for?"

It went on and on.

Apparently, post Spitzer, she had been looking for evidence of something else, but found this!

Caught in these lies, I confessed (but didn't promise never to do it again). I stated that most guys do stuff like this. She denies this is true and thinks most guys are completely honest about such things.

Who is right?
post #2 of 101
I have to. My wife handles the finances, thank The Lord above.

Wolfie
post #3 of 101
Heck no.....that's why most electronic boxes being black is so cool.....

I handle the bills.....bad & good thing
post #4 of 101
It's not a good month for me if I can't sneak a huge box past my sleeping wife into my basement. If she ever discovered the stereo receipts file I would probably need to go diamond shopping the next day.
post #5 of 101
There is no way I tell my wife the real cost of my purchaces for the HT like the ones I do when I modify my car! LOL.
post #6 of 101
I have to, she handles the home finances. I only do spot checking when too many new clothing tags pop up in a short period of time.

The one time I purchased a piece of equipment without prior approval she wasn't too pleased. I found out that you just need to consider that getting wife approval is like a business proposal. Do your research and work on your presentation and present your findings to the wife with information on why the purchase is a must and what the ROI will be.

You just need to accept the fact you make the money they control and spend it.

Oh yeah and my wife isn't that bad. She wanted a 65" RPTV as a birthday present 6 years ago and was the one who demanded we upgrade the bedroom 27" CRT TV to a 42" Plasma TV.
post #7 of 101
I have to laugh a little here. Guess I managed to marry the right woman.

My last home theater upgrade - a new projector - was not only blessed by my wife - but she convinced me it was time to get a new one.

The ONLY concession I've had to make on home theater purchases has been to make certain it is a system she can control easily (no documentation please). My solution was to invest in a Pronto remote, allowing a basically idiot proof remote control setup.

Roo
post #8 of 101
Hell no. I like making purchases without having to justify their cost. I made the mistake yesterday of saying I was thinking about getting new speakers. She asked how much they cost. I answered honestly although with a used price. I'll have to wait a while and let the details of yesterday's conversation get murky before I actually move on the purchase. I'm also thankful my equipment is hidden and my room is pitch black without a light bulb in the room.
post #9 of 101
Well I buy it and don't exactly fully remember how much it really was, but when in doubt I round the estimate ummmm down well a lot.
post #10 of 101
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Originally Posted by Lawguy View Post

I came home last night to the sight of my wife sitting at the kitchen table with various bank and credit card statements spread before her.

Oh No.

Then the interrogation began.

"You told me that "X" cost $x. It actually cost $2x."

"What is this charge for?"

It went on and on.

Apparently, post Spitzer, she had been looking for evidence of something else, but found this!

Caught in these lies, I confessed (but didn't promise never to do it again). I stated that most guys do stuff like this. She denies this is true and thinks most guys are completely honest about such things.

Who is right?


Wife? What wife?
post #11 of 101
I think this poll should have some more options:
No - caused divorce
No - caused property damage
No - caused personal injury
No - (all of the above)
No - but only once, now in therapy
No - The wife does not know there is a theater in the sub-sub-basement
No - items charged with secret credit card - the bill goes to a po box
post #12 of 101
She must know... because I make her buy them for me
post #13 of 101
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Originally Posted by Andrew Low View Post

My last home theater upgrade - a new projector - was not only blessed by my wife - but she convinced me it was time to get a new one.
Roo

This is proof there is a GOD!
Actually, when we went to a CES show a few years ago, I kept showing her large RPTVs figuring that's all she be willing to go for. She wasn't impressed with any of them. Instead, she fall in love with a front projector setup we saw. Of course, being a good husband, I did ALL I could to help her get one she'd like. And, she KNOWS exactly how much everything co$t!
post #14 of 101
I just told my wife last night "YES I DID SPEND $5,000 ON THAT POWER CABLE! If you don't like it because we can't afford it you should go get a second job! And I also just spent $2,000 on wood blocks to keep my speaker cables off the floor!"

She knows her place. Give her too much control and next thing you know she'll want me to get a job.
post #15 of 101
I've been mostly honest. When I get something on sale, I emphasize the savings. "Remember that receiver I told you I needed? I found it for $750 off!"

Also, I estimated the cost of the home theater based on the lowest pricing I saw from less than reputable dealer. I'll be sure to pay the credit card bill and file everything away very surreptitiously.
post #16 of 101
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Originally Posted by Cameron View Post

Well I buy it and don't exactly fully remember how much it really was, but when in doubt I round the estimate ummmm down well a lot.

+1
post #17 of 101
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Originally Posted by dla26 View Post

I've been mostly honest. When I get something on sale, I emphasize the savings. "Remember that receiver I told you I needed? I found it for $750 off!"

Now why does that sound strangely familiar? "Look how much money I just saved us!"
post #18 of 101
My rule of thumb from way back in the high end audio days was to drop a zero from the actual price so my $5,000 purchase became $500. Worked for awhile but she got smarter over time. At first I thought it was cute when on occassion I would catch her casually thumbing through the pages of magazines like Absolute Sound, Stereophile. Perfect Vision etc. Took me some time to realize what she was really doing was checking the prices mentioned in the ads and reviews of the toys.
post #19 of 101
AV gear? dont let her find your receipts to the Emperors Club
post #20 of 101
If she gave me any crap I wouldnt let her watch "Elizabeth" or "No Reservations" in the theater room.

Thankfully she kicked in money and loves it down there!
post #21 of 101
I have been a M&A guy for a while so I always avoid the price discussion. By the time we could get to the price part of the discussion my wife just gets tired of listening and tunes me out. When price does come up I am usually accurate within a rounding range and I talk about how I am selling something for big bucks to cover it. My equipment sales never seem to happen too fast so by the time I am done I am usually using the same item that I am planning to sell to justify buying multiple things. Not on purpose but it is interesting how the mind works. Also, having a balance in paypal is a sure bet more theater stuff gets procured.
post #22 of 101
Thanks for the PayPal tip. I'll need to remember that one.

One other trick is to talk about the big ticket items (rounding down of course) but leave out all of the little things - the cables, the PJ mount, rack, etc. - which wind up costing about as much as an actual component.
post #23 of 101
When I chat with someone that hasn't been to my place, I describe my home theater as "Bachelor Grade" i.e. this is what happens when there's no wife standing on the hose and only releasing a little flow when they're thirsty.

post #24 of 101
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Tryg View Post

AV gear? dont let her find your receipts to the Emperors Club

Stupid Spitzer. That's what I thought she was looking for!

Lucky for me, I don't do that kind of thing.

It seems like most of us are engaged in some kind of deception with this stuff.

It looks like this is going to cost me a new driveway.

Funny how the remedy for me spending too much money is for me to spend even more money.
post #25 of 101
You know, the funny thing is... I use some of the reported strategies to justify within myself some purchase decisions. Look! All those HD-DVD titles are more than 50% off!!!! You already have the hardware - may as well get your money's worth out of it. Heh heh.
post #26 of 101
My wife was the one who insisted my original 5 seat HT was too small and that we needed a 15 seat theater. This required structural support modification of my house including a pole removal from the middle of the room to be used and a big new beam and two new support poles to hold the new beam. My comment to her was do you have any f___ing idea how much this is going to cost? She looked at me with a really mad look and said what did you say to me? I said never mind dear. It ended up costing me $150k and I am in the business. We ended up with 12 seatsm a 4 way masking screen, 7.4 (4 subs), acoustical treatments, all fabric covered walls. I wasn't going to put in automated lighting and she had a fit. I put the light system in too. I guess I should have married someone else, then I could of had all the sneaking fun you guys have.
post #27 of 101
My wife likes the theater. Every now and then she will ask if this piece or that piece is new. Sometimes yes and sometimes no. If she asks how much it is/was, I ask her if she really wants to know, and that generally ends the conservation.
post #28 of 101
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Originally Posted by mark haflich View Post

My wife was the one who insisted my original 5 seat HT was too small and that we needed a 15 seat theater. This required structural support modification of my house including a pole removal from the middle of the room to be used and a big new beam and two new support poles to hold the new beam. My comment to her ws do you have any f___ing idea how much this is going to cost? She looked at me with a really mad look and said what did you say to me? I said never mind dear. It ended up costing me $150k and I am in the business. We ended up with 12 seatsm a 4 way masking screen, 7.4 (4 subs), acoustical treatments, all fabric covered walls. I wasn't going to put in automated lighting and she had a fit. I put the light system in too. I guess I should have married someone else, then I could of had all the sneaking fun you guys have.


Poooor you! My heart bleed for you. LOL.
post #29 of 101
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Originally Posted by Lawguy View Post

Who is right?

You tell the wife that the new Pearl only costs a few hundred dollars, and she tells you the new Manolo Blahnik shoes were on sale at the outlet mall. Everyone wins.
post #30 of 101
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Originally Posted by Andrew Low View Post

I have to laugh a little here. Guess I managed to marry the right woman.

My last home theater upgrade - a new projector - was not only blessed by my wife - but she convinced me it was time to get a new one.

The ONLY concession I've had to make on home theater purchases has been to make certain it is a system she can control easily (no documentation please). My solution was to invest in a Pronto remote, allowing a basically idiot proof remote control setup.

Roo

We are both blessed to be in almost exactly the same situation. I've never had to lie to my wife about how much a piece of equipment cost. In fact, it's my wife who has been pushing me to upgrade to a 1080p projector for a while now, but I'm the one going, "Lets wait a little bit to see what's coming up." Although I'm an early adopter, she knows that I think through my purchases carefully, and that's good enough for her.

She's also an even bigger movie nut than I am, so she buys a lot of our BDs and HD-DVDs when she's on layover in the States where it's cheaper, or I order through Amazon and have it delivered to her hotel.

The best part is that she doesn't just do this to "Keep the husband happy." She genuinely enjoys HT, even if she doesn't get as deep into the technical aspects as I do. Every year, she asks me if I want to go to CES and leaves it up to me whether we go or not.

My Japanese friends don't believe me when I tell them this because the wife traditionally holds the purse strings here, and it's not uncommon for husbands to have strict "allowances" every week. Big purchases for them often involve a bribe of some kind like a Louis Vuitton or Chanel bag for the wife in exchange.

We are lucky men indeed.
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