Alright I've finished my calibration, here's everything:
Tools: Spyder2 colorimeter, ColorHCFR software, DVE-BD & AVS-BD, Grayscale Calibration for Dummies Guide:
http://www.curtpalme.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=10457
Final Settings (for now, lol):
Mode: Movie
Backlight: 3/dark 4-5/lighted
Contrast: 90
Brightness: 43
Sharpness: 10 for BD / 20 for DTV
Color: 43
Tint: G50/R50
Black adjust: Off
Dynamic Contrast: Off
Gamma: -2
Color Space: Auto
Flesh Tone: 0
Edge Enhancement: On
xvYCC: Off
White Balance:
Offset
R: 28
G: 25
B: 21
Gain
R: 25
G: 25
B: 29
Color Tone: Warm1
Now here are my notes:
Contrast: 90 / Backlight 3-4
According to the guide, the contrast levels should be between 50-60 FTL. With the default, I got measurements upwards of 70. After taking several readings, the best backlight is between 2-5 depending on your lighting, optimum would be 3-4 and the contrast at 92. This setting gave me just decimals over 59 FTL with the backlight at 4 and just over 50 at 2. You can go to 5, but that's if you're room is extremely lit up. And I prefer to keep it at 3 instead of down to 2 in the dark just to get a bit more pop.
The luminance curve was pretty spot on
Brightness: 43 / Gamma: -2
This was set according to the contrast measurements. I still want to work on this a bit more. The entire combination between contrast, brightness, gamma and backlight can be confusing. But i'm getting the hang of it now. Gamma at -2 was the only way I was able to get the great black depth and shadow detail while maintaining the contrast.
The gamma curve was right at 2.2 between 30-80 IRE. Below 30 IRE the gamma curve went down to 2.1, while above 80 IRE the curve went up to 2.3, so I'm pretty happy with that as well.
Color: 43 / Tint: 50/50
I used the Red & Cyan test pattern from the AVS-BD. According to the measurements this is pretty precise.
Greyscale:
The greyscale readings were incredible, according to the guide, lol. The only thing was that I could not get a proper reading at 0-10 IRE because of the colorimeter so I don't have values for those. But check this, between 30-80 IRE, "all" of my deltaE measurements came in under 1. Yes, all less than 1. The only deltaE values I got above 1, were at the 20, 90, & 100 IRE, and they were not far behind. at 90 & 100 IRE I got a deltaE of less than 3 for both. And the reading that was furthest off, was at 20 IRE, which had a deltaE of 5, which isn't even considered being off, lol.