Originally Posted by archiguy
Nothing could be more unfair to the unsuspecting spouse or children than that.
I never blamed her for that. It made a lot of her actions during our marriage make a lot more sense though. She is a good person and we have remained close (having a child together tends to do that).
I felt bad that she had to hide who she really was just to fit in. She grew up in southern Texas and much of her family still hasn't come to terms with it, and it's been 20 years.