Originally Posted by johnridgerunner
I'm no bible thumper. Just a guy who had to learn the hard way what anger and bitterness can do in a persons life. These things are like a cancer in the body and the mind, slowly eroding away the good in us. Let me ask this question. What joy do you get out of hatred and anger?
What's wrong with being angry after you've been robbed?
What's wrong with hating those who've robbed you?
What's wrong with feeling better that justice is/will be served to those who've done such a thing to you?
What's wrong with those being punished for their bad deeds?
W/O any of the above, more people will rob and take advantage of others, with justice taking a back seat.
I've been the victim of robbery (of various forms) as many have, and as time passes, I think less about it, but I never forget and I would never forgive those who've prayed on the me. Does it interfere with my happiness in life? For me, absolutely not.
Everyone has the right to forgive anyone that's done harm to them, and the how's and why's of that is certainly very specific to each and every case/situation. But I myself would never ask anyone else to forgive (or even ponder it) the person(s) who've harmed them, that is totally up to the victim and I would never make judgment on a victim based on whether they have forgiven their predators or not. I myself thinks it's almost an insult to question a victims reasons for forgiveness (or lack of), when you're not the one who was victimized.
For any victim, they might feel better forgiving early and moving on, or forgiving later and moving on, or not forgiving at all.
Everyone is different. Don't assume forgiveness is an 'Easy Button' for all.