The PS3 has a fan but mine it is not loud enough to annoy me when watching a movie or playing a game. In a quiet environment it could be annoying for some imo. They don't come with a standard remote but you can purchase a bluetooth remote that looks like a standard remote.
There are other options to control the PS3 as well, such as a Harmony remote with a PS3 adapter, and other devices. The PS3 is still a really good BD player, with excellent video quality.