I had the same problem buddy. I really dont see spending $200+ on a stand made of plastic and glass. Glass shelves = a PITA to keep clean (unless you live in a dust free clean room). I went to every furniture store and electronics store in my area. If something looked nice, it usually could not hold the weight of this beast. I finally went to IKEA and they have a newer line of furniture called "Markor" (2 dots over the "o"). They make 2 TV stands/entertainment center type things that are 100% solid wood and come in a dark black/brown stain (which I bought) or a lighter brown "antique" stain. Both will hold 220lbs on top. I went for the one with the 2 glass inset doors and open center, adjustable shelves. This thing has enough room for all your AV stuff, DVD, CD's....etc. I even got the matching coffee table so my living room hasne ever looked better. They have bookshelves, diner tables, etc all in this style if you want to go with something you could match up later.
EDIT: well maybe I should have read your post better first, seems you want something modern. This is a bit more old fashion, but check it out anyway.