Okay I re-calibrated again with gain knob on the sub back to 1. After recalibration undid some of the settings (freq set to 40 and upped it to 80hz for fronts L, C, R), and set speakers to "small" from "LARGE". Then saw the setting for my sub and it was within the sweet spot range of -3db and +3db (-2.5db). Now it's much easier to adjust for movies so I set it to +2db and played again my Top Gun.
Yup.....still feels like that F-14 Tomcat is going to crash through my roof!!!
Thanks cel4145 and pokekevin. Will adjust from the AVR (Marantz SR7005) from now on.