Originally Posted by damelon
Well usually I "Don't listen to MFusick... he's lying!", but in this case he hit the nail on the head. Internet dating around 30 years old was awesome. When myspace first came out, you only had to do a geographical search, send messages, and you had a date... and for computer nerds like me, that is as easy as it gets! Then match.com started to come out and the trend continued. I never waited for one person to write back, just sent messages or winks to every single person I found remotely cute and see what they said. It worked more often than not. When I first purchased my SFH in '06 and finished my basement with a theater and a bar... yep, that made things real easy! Didn't need to take them out, just invite them over! Of course, the more you date, the more likely you are to run into crazy! Had one girl screaming at me for spending father's day with my father because her father was deceased and apparently doing anything with my dad was insulting!
I always did the paid online dating sites. Match.com, Eharmony, etc.. I never used the free ones. I didn't want that level of person. I am not interested in dating the kind of girl that goes on plenty of fish. It's decidedly a lower class of person and often the free sites are just about random sex finding. You can do the same with the more premium sites - but there is a higher level of person available on them in general and more complicated social parameters you must navigate. But if you looking to be more conservative, safer and in general weed out the lower quality people then it's a good choice.
I was dating at 31- which I considered my "peak" I went to the gym 5 days a week and ate a clean diet of protein with moderate carbs/fat. I was in great shape. I looked young and healthy which is often attractive. Back then it was too easy to get a date. It was too easy especially with internet dating. But I was tired of it all and tired of wasting my time. I actually wanted a serious partner and wanted to get married and a family etc. My fun was done. The problem was too many girls were to happy to have me- but I was not as happy to have them. They all had serious flaws. I am not really a picky person IMO but it seems like online there is a higher level of desperation and lower level of quality with women versus what your going to find in other areas (real life). That was why I learned it was better to use the premium paid dating sites versus the free ones. It minimized that to some extent.
In the end I met my wife 4 years ago and we did not meet through online dating. We met on facebook! Well- not really. I am not sure how to say we met. She was best friends with a girl that my best friend dated for 4 years. I did not know my wife at all and never met her- but I did know her friend through my friend's 4 year relationship with her. I was friends with my buddy's ex-GF on facebook and I saw she went on a cruise and was posting tons of pictures. I noticed a hot girl (my wife) in the pictures since they went together. Tons of bikini photos etc... the sort of thing that gets your attention. So I messaged this girl I know and said "hey who is your friend, next time we hang out you should bring her" Of coarse she told my wife about my inquiry and we chatted on facebook- then we met up with out mutual friend too. Then a real date- and the rest is history. We dated about year before she moved in, lived together a year, got engaged and was engaged a year, and now we have been married for just over a year. A lot has changed in those 4 years. It seems like internet dating has deteriorated and much of that is because of the "free" online dating sites.
I was never interested in random sex. It's not that hard if your 31, own a house, have a job and your in good shape. That's the prime for a man to date IMO. I was always interested in finding the right women to spend my life with and I felt my age for the first time and like I was starting to run out of time. In the end I found her, but not though internet dating.