Originally Posted by Sharp1080
Originally Posted by TankDT
I do ok. I pay for everything as it is, when she's gone those things will only cost 1/2 as much. It will take me a year to rebound financially, but my happiness is priceless.
I've been divorced for 19 years! It was the best decision for both of us. I'm way happier now and c an buy whatever I want when I want to. I grew up without a mother after seven years of age when she died suddenly. What I've noticed is many men marry a woman who they can be romantic with but still want or need to be told what and when and how to do everything. That's not happiness that's control. I'm better off now financially than I ever was when married (9 years)! When married the debt rises. Most men are afraid of divorcing because they think they will come away with nothing which isn't true as the laws work both ways. Especially if the wife earns a paycheck and has income. I bought my ex wife out of the house, stayed there for 19 years and sold it with equity and purchased a larger house that's paid for with cash. The men that have wives that are not psycho or controlling did choose the "right one"! I have found a "good woman" that's been through the divorce process herself. Neither of us want to get married. What benefit does it bring to YOU both? Here's a question for you, think carefully. It's a simple question but you have to answer honestly. It's as follows, When was the last time you were in a disagreement (argument) with your wife? Now here the thinking part of it, who started the disagreement/complaint/argument?
I’m lucky. I was always a Hi-Fi guy, and when I started dating my wife, her parents had two closets full of VHS tapes, both store bought, and SLP recordings of 3 HBO movies crammed onto one blank tape.
This was right around the time Dolby Surround was coming out. Stereo VCRs, dual-mono rears. I was hooked. We got married at 22, and have both had our personal ups and downs, been there for each other, and weathered the storms. Sometimes she carries the financial weight, sometimes I did, but we’ve always had our love for movies and music.
My first “home theater” was a used CRT projector I bought from a local hospital’s surplus sale, a cheap converter box, PS/2, and homemade 4:3 screen in the unfinished basement with 2 lawn chairs. One day, she volunteered that since we weren’t having kids, we should convert the third bedroom into a dedicated theater. Upgrades followed.
We have always been “old souls”, and bought our last home we will ever own when we were 42. I lost my job between our offer being accepted and closing. A great friend came through to make the sale go through. Another great friend took me into her business doing something I personally life- cooking- but with a paycheck, at the 10 year reigning “best brunch in town.” The house was secured, but the HT was in a pile in the corner.
One Saturday I came home after a hot, brutal shift to find that the extra bedroom was cleared, taped, the carpet covered, and paint swatches laid out. She had decided that it was time to reinvent the home theater, and was waiting for me to tell her what I wanted. By the next weekend, she had it finished and ready for equipment install.
I hit the jackpot.