I ended up playing around last night and I figured it out so see my previous post for more info. Basically had to factory reset the Q9 and everything is now all good. I was smart enough to make sure I took photos of all my settings first so it was painless to get everything backcup to snuff.I had some time to test it and ended up not being able to get it to work. When I turned on my receiver, I received the update for ALLM, after the reboot, when in the Xbox One X settings menu sure enough the ALLM option is selectable, but on the TV it does not offer the Auto Game Mode option, only on or off. I did a complete power down of the Xbox, Receiver and the TV and rebooted everything and still the same. I even when into the Samsung menu and tried to select Auto and it is greyed out even though the Xbox shows it as compatible with the set. So not sure what is going on, it seems like the TV does not recognize that ALLM is an option just like before the update on the receiver.
So the Xbox One X recognizes that the receiver and since it goes through the receiver to the TV it recognizes that ALLM is available, but on the TV end, it acts like there never was an update for the receiver and shows only Game Mode On/Off and that is it. Disconnecting the Xbox One X from the receiver straight to the One Connect Box I get the Game Mode On/Off/Auto. Not sure what is going on, but I am just going to chuck this into "another Samsung quirk", which this sets has a lot.
Even still I appreciate you looking into it. At least I know I'm not the only one.