Just because you don't have check boxes for DMA doesn't mean the controller isn't using it. I'm sure it is. Raid controllers like this usually don't have a check box to select DMA as they do this by default. In fact, I believe most of the IDE raid controllers probably require a drive to support DMA in order for it to work on the controller. Only really old harddrives don't support it. So, you don't have to worry about any check boxes for DMA mode as the driver will do this automatically.
Anyway, you should probably connect your DVD-rom drive to the regular IDE channels on your motherboard and only connect your harddrives to the raid controller. Some raid controllers only allow harddrives connected to them and don't support ATAPI devices, like DVD-rom, Cdrom, CDRW, ls-120, or zip drives to be connected to them at all. I think the highpoint controllers may have allowed this with earlier bios and driver revisions, but I believe that even on the highpoint controllers ATAPI device support was removed with the latest drivers.